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Comment on Relaxers: The Making of a Creamy Crack Addict by Lynn

Lynn — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 09:04:51 +0000

Late, but I just saw this post while doing a search on relaxers and wanted to comment. Thanks for sharing your relaxer story. Mine is less traumatic, nobody insulted my hair but it was the bane of my and my mother’s existence from the day I was born. She never knew how to do it and kept it in a frizzy ponytail. When I turned 11 I got my first relaxer done by a family member. I was sooo happy that for once it would actually “do” something, even if that “something” was to just hang there looking greasy because I applied too much grease to it. I was relaxed off and on for the next 20 years, have spent the past 3 years natural and am contemplating(planning actually) to go back to relaxing. To answer your questions:1. My relaxer, and hair story in general, has let me know that while “I am not my hair” I do have 2 preferences for it- 1)It should be relatively easy to care for, and 2)It should be healthy and be able to maintain a style that is flattering. While I don’t feel ugly if my hair is not how I would like, it definitely brings me down when I spent hours trying to do something with it and tried out multiple products and it won’t hold a style, any style(curly or straight) while being natural.2. I have a 17 year old daughter and it has affected her by me being very accepting of what she would like to do with her hair(within reason). She’s been straightened & natural, relaxed, had locs, and now she’s natural and considering tex-laxing. I figure it’s her hair and she has to learn to care for it and style how she would like. I don’t have a preference either way except to see her happy with herself.3. My most important discovery about my hair as a natural is that it’s not the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for everybody. While I love the fullness and waves/curls I have as a natural, I’m beyond frustrated that my hair will NOT hold any kind of style. Even it’s own natural curl. I cut put tons of gels, shea butter, conditioner, etc. in it and it will eventually just go “poof” and become a frizz ball(not even a proper afro since it’s too long for that now ). I obsessed over becoming “natural” and couldn’t wait to play with my curls/waves/kinks – whatever I was blessed with. I had no idea that I would only be blessed with frizz. lol Yes, I’ve tried it all(product wise, routine wise, style wise) and my hair will literally do nothing but frizz. It’s too soft and fine to do anything else on it’s own. So back to a relaxer I’m about to go because I’m tired of my hair looking like a Diana Ross wig on a bad day. Finally(sorry for the super long comment), hair isn’t a litmus test for a person’s racial awareness. Having a relaxer isn’t indicative of self hate, having an afro or locs isn’t indicative of self pride. Some people chooses these styles FOR those reasons, but not most. Thanks for letting me ramble, I like your blog. Have a blessed day.

Comment on The Education of a Natural Hair Stylist: The Beginning by ChakeciaDoesHair

ChakeciaDoesHair — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 01:22:58 +0000

I love this! There aren’t enough people teaching about curls at all. whether they be black or white curly/kinky hair is viewed as a hassle and it’s not true if you know what you’re doing! (=

Comment on The Cardinal Sins of Natural Hair: #2 Eggs, Mayonnaise, Honey Oh My! by S.

S. — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 21:59:13 +0000

Takes me back to the days of childhood when I was sure I smelled like mayo long after my kitchen “pre-conditioner”!!

Comment on The Cardinal Sins of Natural Hair: #1 Improper Cleansing by Aeleise J

Aeleise J — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 23:55:36 +0000

@Ashley I hesitate to recommed products because I have not seen/touched/worked with your hair but I do like Joico K-Pak Chelating Shampoo and Elucence Volume Clarifying Shampoo. Cleansing but not overly stripping.

Comment on The Cardinal Sins of Natural Hair: #1 Improper Cleansing by Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 23:04:33 +0000

Can you recommend a sulfate shampoo that you like?

Comment on The Cardinal Sins of Natural Hair: #1 Improper Cleansing by Reesha

Reesha — Tue, 05 Jul 2011 20:03:50 +0000

Good info. Everyone is into the whole sulfate-free craze. I almost bought into it. Good to know that you should use both sulfate and sulfate-free for different purposes.

Comment on The Business of Natural Hair: Trust Issues by MiiSS kECIia

MiiSS kECIia — Wed, 20 Apr 2011 21:59:48 +0000

I love this post I was just thinking of doing one similar!

Comment on Texture: Why Your 3C is Greek to Me by DIY Hair Care Blog

DIY Hair Care Blog — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 21:39:58 +0000

Great post! I agree. I never understood why anyone would go off of hair type as in, 4A, 4B, 3C, etc. to determine a hair twin. Yes, the curls may “look” the same but, there is more to it than that.It’s easier to just find out what works for your hair on your own without trying to mimic someone else. Saves time and money.Some people just want a free ride and a regimen handed to them when it’s not the simple.Jarmelia